A List Of Rules For Women.

Jay Smooth is having a hard time keeping them all straight. [...]

What’s In a Name? Kind of a Lot.

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Refusing to learn how to pronounce Quvenzhané’s name says, pointedly, you are not worth the effort. The problem is not that she has an unpronounceable name, because she doesn’t. The problem is that white Hollywood, from Ryan Seacrest and his homies to the AP reporter who decided to call her “Annie” rather than her real name, doesn’t deem her as important as, say, Renee Zellwegger, or Zach Galifinakis, or Arnold Schwarzenegger, all of whom have names that are difficult to pronounce–but they manage. [...]

T.I., ‘Gender Night,’ and Unlearning Misogyny.

I know I have my own hypocrisy to deal with, from my previous romantic entanglements to my music choices. But at the least, I got a headstart on confronting that hypocrisy. It started in earnest when I was 17, the summer before my senior year of high school, at a leadership camp just outside of Houston. [...]

“Girls Don’t Know How To Play Football.”

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After his six-year-old daughter declares matter-of-factly that little girls don’t play football, a father considers how our ideas about gender are formed. [...]

Random Midday Hotness: Sasheer Meets Her Flasher.

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Sasheer Zamata, a comedian based here in NYC, starts to empathize with a random creeper who flashed his junk at her as she walked down the street one evening.

(Oh, and hi. We’re back!)

Sexism, What About the Children?! Edition.

(cross-posted from TAPPED.)

LZ Granderson used his weekly column at CNN.com yesterday to bury the otherwise unobjectionable objection to over-sexualizing young girls in reductive language that will do more harm than good. In fairness, he likely didn’t write the deplorable headline: “Parents, don’t dress your girls like tramps.” (Next up [...]

Black. Male. Feminist?

Over at The Root, Byron Hurt has a candid piece about how watching the fraught interaction between his parents as a kid helped plant the seeds for his adult embrace of feminism: Feminist writings about patriarchy, racism, capitalism and structural sexism resonated with me because I had witnessed firsthand the kind of male dominance they challenged. I saw it as a child in my home and perpetuated it as an adult. Their analysis of male culture and male behavior helped me put my father’s patriarchy into a much larger social context, and also helped me understand myself better. You’ll have to forgive me for how jumbled/discursive/TMI this is going to read, but this has agitated a lot of stuff I’ve been thinking about and was frankly saving for a much neater Mother’s Day post. My own, very flawed feminism is also rooted in my childhood, albeit in circumstances very different from Hurt’s. His father’s presence was inescapable. Mine was imperceptible. [...]

Spending Currency You Didn’t Earn.

So, SNL seems to be getting better. And the last episode had some generally pretty funny moments, though I had mixed feelings about this blaxploitation skit featuring Nicki Minaj.

For those who can’t watch it, this gist of the clip is this: Minaj is the bride of Frankenstein’s monster, in a blaxploitation film that’s [...]