When Bride and Groom Don’t ‘Match,’ Maybe Our Names Should?

“And just who are we related to?” the dog-walking stranger said, her eyes on the blond, blue-eyed 5-year-old in the pair, but her query very much meant for the brown woman – that is, me. I returned her cutesy tone, explaining that my playmate was my fiancé’s niece, and weren’t we having fun outside?

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Introducing The Bless Your Heart Podcast!

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It’s been a long time, we know. But here’s something new and different — the inaugural episode of the monthly Bless Your Heart podcast. Our own Tracy “Brokey McPoverty” Clayton and Nichole Perkins talk about the tyranny of the dick pic, women-centered porn and “Martin.” (Some salty language, obviously.)

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Kanye West Is Maybe A Wretched Human Being, And That’s Okay.

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Since 2009, what’s soured many onlookers to Kanye’s music and persona is that his self-love, so-called, is increasingly contingent on contempt for women, derision of inferiors, obsession with his own influence, hapless strafing, and clamoring for attention that he then claims to resent. [...]

T.I., ‘Gender Night,’ and Unlearning Misogyny.

I know I have my own hypocrisy to deal with, from my previous romantic entanglements to my music choices. But at the least, I got a headstart on confronting that hypocrisy. It started in earnest when I was 17, the summer before my senior year of high school, at a leadership camp just outside of Houston. [...]

How to Be a Woman.

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Black. Male. Feminist?

Over at The Root, Byron Hurt has a candid piece about how watching the fraught interaction between his parents as a kid helped plant the seeds for his adult embrace of feminism: Feminist writings about patriarchy, racism, capitalism and structural sexism resonated with me because I had witnessed firsthand the kind of male dominance they challenged. I saw it as a child in my home and perpetuated it as an adult. Their analysis of male culture and male behavior helped me put my father’s patriarchy into a much larger social context, and also helped me understand myself better. You’ll have to forgive me for how jumbled/discursive/TMI this is going to read, but this has agitated a lot of stuff I’ve been thinking about and was frankly saving for a much neater Mother’s Day post. My own, very flawed feminism is also rooted in my childhood, albeit in circumstances very different from Hurt’s. His father’s presence was inescapable. Mine was imperceptible. [...]

Leftovers.

The countries neighboring the Ivory Coast are worried that violence there may spread.

After being told their baby had no chance of survival, an Iowa couple was forced to see the pregnancy to term and watch the child die because state law prohibits abortion after 20 weeks.

Latoya on being the token Negro on [...]

Leftovers.

All this “beiging of America stuff” — btw, have you listened to the podcast? — is muddying things for both statisticians and the government. “Under Department of Education requirements that take effect this year, for instance, any student…who acknowledges even partial Hispanic ethnicity will, regardless of race, be reported to federal officials only as [...]