How to Spend 9 Years Without the Love of Your Life (A Tribute to Ruby Dee).

(x-posted from stacialbrown.com)

Live to be 91. This is the hearty number of years he would’ve wished for you, even if it meant that nine of them would be lived without him. He will know how to wait. Try to remember a time before him. You were just as whole [...]

When Bride and Groom Don’t ‘Match,’ Maybe Our Names Should?

“And just who are we related to?” the dog-walking stranger said, her eyes on the blond, blue-eyed 5-year-old in the pair, but her query very much meant for the brown woman – that is, me. I returned her cutesy tone, explaining that my playmate was my fiancé’s niece, and weren’t we having fun outside?

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Random Midday Hotness: The Right to Choose Your Family.

On Saturday, Monica, Jamelle and I had the honor of seeing Gabriel Arana, their colleague at The American Prospect, marry his longtime partner, Michael Collis. It was a beautiful, elegant ceremony — and also fun as hell.

Ideally, one of us would say something insightful and poignant here, but we’d be hard-pressed to match the [...]

Leftovers.

Most people know Jasper, TX, as the town where a black man named James Byrd was tied to a pickup truck and dragged to his death by three white men in 1998. The photography of Alonzo Jordan, who was something of a local institution,  captures the quieter, happier moments of [...]

Prop 8 Overturned.

Los Angeles Times:

A federal judge in San Francisco decided today that gays and lesbians have a constitutional right to marry, striking down Proposition 8, the voter approved ballot measure that banned same-sex unions.

U.S. District Chief Judge Vaughn R. Walker said Proposition 8, passed by voters in November 2008, violated the federal constitutional [...]

Race, Marriage and Economic Mobility.

from Wheelz24, via Creative Commons.

[cross-posted from U.S. of J.]

C.H. at Democracy in America flags a new report from the Pew Charitable Trusts on the effect of marriage on economic mobility for children:

Messrs DeLeire and Lopoo find that marriage has a positive effect on economic mobility for children of all races. Among [...]

Laura Bush’s ‘Right Thinking’ Shouldn’t Count for Much.

(cross-posted from U.S. of J.)

Admittedly, it’s nice that Laura Bush is pro-choice and doesn’t hate gay people, but still, it doesn’t actually count for anything. Her “right thinking” doesn’t make-up for the fact that she has offered nothing but unlimited support to her husband, whose actions as president cost the United States thousands [...]

Steve Harvey and Me, Crisis Counselors.

If you missed – intentionally or not – ABC News’ Nightline special “Face-Off: Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?” consider yourself lucky.

Because I can’t get those 30 minutes of my life back.

The title of the program itself should have been a clue to stay away. If that wasn’t enough, [...]