Statistics Are Not Our Stories.

(x-posted from

I don’t know why other women do it. I can’t say what keeps them out of the pharmacy within 120 hours of conception. I don’t know why they don’t choose the clinic? It’s unclear what makes them believe: in the strength of their relationships, in their capacity for quick maturation or increased [...]

Motes and Beams.

(cross-posted from slb’s blog)

And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? — Matthew 7:3

Last night, a woman cradled her abdomen and revealed the life growing there, as vibrant and as certain as the crimson of her [...]

Community: Season 1, Ep. 1 and Ep. 2 – ‘Pilot’ and ‘Spanish 101.’

For all my love of NBC’s Community, this was actually my first time seeing the pilot. I jumped in on the holiday ep that featured a healthy dose of Shirley’s religious intolerance–but I’m getting head of myself. I knew I’d eventually settle into this show because I remember falling hard for the earnestness of its [...]

Seven Tropes We Should Retire.

King Solomon wrote in the Book of Ecclesiastes that there’s nothing new under the sun, and that was circa 970 B.C., so you can imagine how recycled and overwarmed pretty much everything is now. As a pop culture connoisseur, I find Solomon’s screed particularly true of contemporary lit, film, and TV.

Take any show, flick, [...]

Navigating The Affection Gap.

Last week, the Kinsey Institute released the results of a study that surveyed 1,009 heterosexual couples on their attitudes toward physical affection and sex. The “shocking” pull-quote making media rounds has to do with men in long-term relationships valuing physical affection (i.e. kissing and cuddling) more than women in long-term relationships, who [...]

Five Romcoms You Should Side-Eye.

After a brief conversation about John Hughes’ 1984 teen romcom classic, Sixteen Candles, this morning, I was reminded of something I’ve always suspected by never taken the time to truly analyze: romantic comedies are never as innocuous as their writers would have you believe. For all their spin about happy endings, they’re about as kind [...]

Rodrick Dantzler Is Dead.

(Cross-posted from slb.)

Rodrick Shonte Danzler is dead. And so is his 12-year-old daughter and the six other people he killed Thursday.

I didn’t become aware of the massacre or begin to watch the live footage until his five-hour hostage standoff was well underway. Apparently, Dantzler’s killing rampage [...]

Open Thread: National HIV Testing Day.

Today is National HIV Testing Day. How up-to-date is your status?

Tell us about the first (or last) time you were tested. Where’d you go? Were you worried? Did you bring a friend or partner along for moral support or to co-test?

We believe it’s important to keep the conversation about HIV prevention and [...]