In the wake of Mayer -gate,Tracy Clark-Flory expounds some more on race and dating practices.
Typically, we don’t bat an eye when a white guy says he has a thing for Asian women or a white woman professes a love for Latin men. We thought nothing of Tiger Woods’ preference for white women (until we discovered he was collecting his own personal harem). It’s generally accepted that people have, and are entitled to, their romantic (stereo)types. After all, like so many things, sexual attraction is one hot mess of nature and nurture. How can you separate pure animal lust from social conditioning? Is your racial preference a factor of innate biology or are cultural expectations messing with your romantic wiring?
Uh, we don’t? I’d recommend she talk to some Asian women or Latin@s being “admired” to see what they think. I’d bet many of them would be less than sanguine about being someone’s dehumanizing fetish. (As I said the other day, anxieties about it seem to come up a lot in conversations I’ve had about hypothetical interracial pairings.) And that Tiger Woods line suggests that she must have completely avoided the black commentariat when that story broke.
I’m not sure how a non-black person exclusively dating black men because s/he thinks us/them especially masculine, or a non-Asian person trolling for Asian women because he thinks them demure and accomodating is “a factor of innate biology” and not cultural programming. How do you “love” a fantastically varied, arbitrarily defined group of people in the abstract if you’re not essentializing them?