Question for the Room.

Is this real?

(via Latoya, who’s  guesting over at Jez)

G.D.

G.D.

Gene "G.D." Demby is the founder and editor of PostBourgie. In his day job, he blogs and reports on race and ethnicity for NPR's Code Switch team.
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  • SEK

    I don’t doubt that it’s real, but JD—who, in my mind, flipped back and forth between “G.D.” and “Zack Braff,” which brings the laughs, but confusingly so—is a bit of dick for making this video, and for breaking up with her. I get that she’s a bad listener, yes, that’s the set-up . . . but as soon as he realized that she’d made an honest mistake, he should’ve sat himself down and thought about what he would’ve done had she disappeared. He used her pain as punchlines, which violates whatever code of politeness to which I adhere.

    If I can Buffy geek for a moment, when Anya scolded Xander for laughing at her pain? That’s what we have here . . . except he’s encouraging everyone on the internet to laugh along. That said, I watched the whole thing and drew a different conclusion from the one he wanted me to draw, so maybe this’ll all backfire in his face.

  • Did he dump her for sleeping with the other guy? Or for being mad? Or for not being a good listener? And why’d he make the video?

  • I guess for all 3. But really, only one of those reasons would have been sufficient. Clearly they had some, um, communication problems.

    That was agonizing. Yet I couldn’t turn away.

  • R.

    This can’t be real.

    Okay, maybe he wanted a break, a total disconnect from his regular routine but two weeks of total non-communication with his girlfriend? Maybe it was a break up that he was looking for…

  • -k-

    Right. This is pretty ridiculous all around.

    I felt like this was a relationship being had between popular women’s and men’s magazines.

    Oy.

  • quadmoniker

    I think it’s fake. I don’t believe he wouldn’t check his e-mail in Europe for two whole weeks. It’s also a little too convenient that the Mom and the friend she spoke to didn’t know how to get in touch with her, or tell her. Finally, the little thing at the end, where one e-mail ends with “I’m going to drop off some things at your mom’s house,” and the next e-mail subject line is “OPEN FIRST!” is a little too perfect and careful. It was funny, though.

  • Yeah, I totally agree. I think it’s real, but I came away thinking he was the one who had been a jerk, not her.

  • ladyfresh

    I think it could possibly be real.

    I have a friend who’s boyfriend had her wake me up at 6a.m. after she stayed over to make sure she was where she said she was….

    AFTER calling her every 1/2 hour the night before.

    I had a firm talking to with him regarding his lunacy and my involvement

    Whether this particular instance is real i don’t know but i can’t say it’s beyond the realm of possibility.

  • Honestly I found the girlfriend’s reaction to be crazy (if this is real). If I am going with a guy and he has not called me back for an extended time I am figuring something is seriously wrong. I am basing that on the idea that our MO is to stay in touch/talk/ hang out etc. regularly. I honestly wondered why she did not contact/go over to his mom earlier to be sure that nothing was seriously wrong on/during day number 2. All of this confusion (if this is a true story) could have stopped right >there<. Anyway, if I am involved with a great guy and he was incognito/not responding to my efforts to communicate the first thing I would have done was contact/go visit his mom/fam to be sure everything was ok with him before I began to light him up via e-mail etc.

  • ladyfresh

    I felt like this was a relationship being had between popular women’s and men’s magazines.

    ha!

  • Zing!

  • I think too much about this relationship has to be assumed to determine whether or not the video is fake. Why would the girlfriend be more informed if the relationship is still relatively new? I can agree that it’s reasonable to expect anyone to call their mother once they’ve reached their destination (simply to ensure she has contact information), but I don’t tell my best friends everything I do. And, I only called my mother the last time I left the country. I think a phone call to say “babe I’m leaving tomorrow/today,” is fine (I might be wrong but I don’t recall the guy saying it was a simple voicemail, but that he called her.)

    Also, why should we expect his mother and friend to have the girlfriend’s contact information? My parents have never met any of my boyfriends, let alone have their contact info (and I like it that way.) And, if any of my friends were to have my boyfriend’s phone number, I’d be concerned.

    Should he have spared the girl by not putting their business on youtube? Yeah, but this was probably him getting back at her. Immature, but understandable. She, on the other hand needs to learn to listen, and if someone doesn’t respond the first time you call/text/email them there’s no need to blow up their inboxes. If they got the 300th message, they got the first one.