Comments on: "The Law Should Allow a Person to Marry Anyone He Wants."

By: Big Word

Big Word — Sun, 11 May 2008 17:15:01 +0000

You cannot compare common courtship practices of a couples generation with R Kelly peeing on a 14 year old.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 11 May 2008 06:50:22 +0000

Hi there! {waves}

I used to think that this love story was so heart-warming…until you tossed in the detail that he was dating her when she was 11…that puts the brakes on my warm-fuzzy effusive compliments about the couple…

I wrote a post last week, “LOST ABSOLUTION: WHITE MEN AND THEIR HORRID HISTORY WITH BLACK WOMEN” and I didn’t mention this couple because their love story was just so pure and idyllic…

I feel a bit differently now that I realize she was a little girl when this white man set his eyes on her…why is it so endearing for this white man to do that but R. Kelly is a pedophile and a trainwreck?

Lisa
http://blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com

By: universeexpanding

universeexpanding — Thu, 08 May 2008 18:03:25 +0000

Tasha: “Here” is St. Vincent and the Grenadines, southern Caribbean right near Barbados.

By: Tasha

Tasha — Thu, 08 May 2008 16:48:07 +0000

universeexpanding would you mind saying where here is? I’m curious.

this is interesing I believe G.D. had a post on the problem with how predatory laws are being used against peopel i still consider adolescents themselves 17, 18, 19 year olds. This is what it reminded me of when you say people quote bible verses at you when you challenge them on consenting homosexual adults. It’s frustrating when people warp laws and abuse their religion to suit their purposes.

By: universeexpanding

universeexpanding — Thu, 08 May 2008 04:35:49 +0000

I’m with quad on the issue of their ages. My parents are both from rural agricultural areas here. My father is just over 10 years older than my mother. They married at 19 and 30, but he had known her since she was 14, when they were both teaching in the same primary school. Their actual courtship started when she was 15.

I even have similar annoyances with the peculiar morality of the country where I live. Homosexual sex is on the books here as illegal and gay men especially are almost always assumed to be predators and pedophiles. Age of consent here is 15, but pregnancies among underage girls is a fairly regular occurrence. In the past year there has been a disturbing jump in the number of pregnant 13 year olds. To be sure, some of the fathers are older teenagers but usually these girls are engaged in relationships with men 10, 15 or even 20 years older than them. In my mind *that’s* predatory and people condone it while vilifying homosexuals. I’ve given up even trying to explain the concept of “what two consenting adults wants to do in bed is their business” here. People just quote bible verses at me. =/

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 07 May 2008 22:08:42 +0000

She didn’t become pregnant until she was 17 though..then they got married.

By: shanio

shanio — Wed, 07 May 2008 19:14:15 +0000

I’m going to need a LOT more information on this whole situation before I can comment either way.

By: quadmoniker

quadmoniker — Wed, 07 May 2008 18:05:35 +0000

That age difference, even her really young age, wasn’t all that crazy then, especially for a rural area. Even now, it’s not entirely uncommon for a young teenager, 12, 13, 14, to be involved with an older teenage boy, and for that couple to marry a few years later. It’s happened enough times in my hometown that I can’t count, thought it’s much less acceptable now. (I had a friend who married a 24-year-old when she was 15. They had to leave Arkansas to do it because she was too young, even for Arkansas. Her dad was a Church of Christ (not the same as UCC) minister, and performed the ceremony.)

That actually is what irks me most about some of my fellow Arkansans’ objections to allowing same-sex marriage. So, an adult man can marry a young teenager despite the fact that having sex with her is technically a crime, but two consenting adults can’t get married?

Either way, their quotes in the AP story were really sweet.